What If It’s Too Scary to Face My Trauma?

When it comes to healing PTSD or unresolved trauma, one of the most common fears people express is, "What if facing my trauma is too much to handle?" This is an understandable concern. Trauma feels overwhelming by its very nature, and the idea of revisiting it—of intentionally stepping back into those emotions—can feel impossible.

But here’s the truth: healing trauma doesn’t have to be terrifying. The Boulderstone Technique offers a way to process trauma without retraumatisation, working with the life force to resolve inner conflicts safely, gently, and permanently.

Why Trauma Feels Overwhelming

Trauma feels overwhelming because it’s rooted in unprocessed memories. These memories are dynamic—they don’t sit quietly like files in a cabinet. Instead, they actively seek resolution. Your mind, always working on your behalf, tries to process these memories, often replaying them when it believes you’re safe enough to handle them. Unfortunately, this might happen at inconvenient times—when you’re in bed, driving, or even in the middle of a conversation.

The problem isn’t the memory itself; it’s the overwhelming feelings tied to it. These feelings make the memory feel larger than life, like a wave that might drown you if you let it get too close. It’s no wonder so many people instinctively avoid their trauma, pushing it aside and hoping it will fade over time.

But avoidance doesn’t resolve trauma. It keeps the life force blocked, preventing you from healing fully and keeping you stuck in cycles of flashbacks, anxiety, or emotional shutdown.

A Safe Way to Face Trauma

The fear of facing trauma often comes from the belief that you’ll have to relive it in its entirety—that you’ll have to feel every painful moment all over again. Traditional methods like prolonged exposure therapy can reinforce this fear, as they often ask patients to recount their trauma repeatedly.

The Boulderstone Technique takes a completely different approach. Instead of diving into the memory head-on, we access it gently and in manageable portions. Think of it like approaching a fire: instead of stepping into the flames, we stand at a safe distance, warming ourselves without getting burned.

This is where the life force comes in. By working with the life force, we can access just enough of the memory to begin processing it—what I call a "hologram" of the memory. This process doesn’t require you to speak about the trauma or relive it in detail. Instead, you simply think about the incident, and through touch, I can sense when the memory is beginning to approach overwhelm. At that point, we stop, process what has been accessed, and allow the life force to do the rest.

Why Retraumatisation Is Avoidable

Retraumatisation happens when someone is asked to recall too much of their trauma too quickly, without the tools to manage the overwhelming feelings that arise. The Boulderstone Technique prevents this by working with precision.

By accessing the memory in small, manageable portions, we ensure that you remain in control throughout the process. This precision is guided by the life force, which knows exactly what needs to be processed and in what order. It’s not about forcing anything—it’s about allowing the life force to flow, clearing the memory step by step.

This process is not only safe but also empowering. Many people are surprised at how quickly they feel a sense of relief and peace, even after the first session.

The Role of the Still Point

Healing trauma requires a balance between accessing the memory and staying grounded in the present. This balance is achieved through the still point—a state where the mind, body, and life force align.

The still point is not a static place; it’s dynamic, alive, and deeply connected to the flow of life force. When you reach the still point, the overwhelming feelings tied to the memory begin to dissolve. You can process the trauma without being swept away by it.

Reaching the still point is not something you have to do alone. My role as a therapist is to guide you there, ensuring that you feel safe and supported every step of the way.

Overcoming the Fear of Trauma

It’s natural to fear the idea of facing your trauma. But the fear often comes from misconceptions about what healing requires. Healing doesn’t mean reliving your worst moments or confronting them head-on. It means working with the life force to gently resolve the inner conflict that keeps the trauma alive.

You might feel scared now, but what’s on the other side of that fear is freedom. Imagine being able to think about your past without feeling pain. Imagine being able to move through life without flashbacks, anxiety, or emotional shutdowns. That’s what the Boulderstone Technique offers: not just relief, but lasting peace.

What Healing Feels Like

Many people describe the process as a weight being lifted. One patient said, “I didn’t think it was possible to feel this free. It’s like I’ve been carrying a heavy bag for years, and suddenly it’s gone.”

This freedom isn’t temporary. Once the trauma is resolved, it’s gone for good. The life force flows freely again, allowing you to live in the present without being pulled back into the past.

You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

If you’ve been avoiding your trauma because it feels too scary to face, I want you to know that you’re not alone. The Boulderstone Technique offers a safe, gentle, and effective way to heal—one that works with your life force, not against it.

You don’t have to relive your trauma, and you don’t have to figure it out on your own. Healing is possible, and it doesn’t have to be terrifying. Together, we can work with the life force to clear the obstacles that have been holding you back, so you can finally find peace.